I'm Sorry

This isn't a short story or poem, a true blog if you will.

Do you ever notice how people cannot take compliments? If you compliment someone on their beautiful skin, pretty eyes, pearly white smile, they deny it or they brush it off with an excuse, never saying thank you. It's like this generation is ashamed of who they are, where they were raised and what family heritage is about (not to mention upbringing and manners). 

I'm sorry for not being sorry. 

People apologize for who they are constantly! Stop apologizing because you are you. There is no reason to be sorry or ashamed of who you are. Silly things like genuine qualities that can't be changed here are some of the ones I have heard that work my nerve... 

"I'm sorry, it's because I'm blonde." No, it's not. You hair color didn't spill the glass of water but IT'S OKAY, it's water. It's not red wine, if it were, then we'd have a problem (just kidding)

"I'm sorry I didn't meet your expectations" WHAT?! Expectations? Who has those anymore? Everyone knows once you have a predisposition or expectations it ruins EVERYTHING. Placing goals on someone or expectations is unfair because you don't get to see who they really are because they are worried about how you will view them. Don't be sorry. Be happy! Be happy you didn't succumb to someones rules and regulations and that you acted like yourself. If you can't be yourself, who are you?

"I'm sorry, I can't go to yoga today because I am not flexible" You aren't flexible because you work diligently on your feet all day and that too is OKAY. You are providing for your family. Saying you can't come to yoga because you are tight is like saying you can't drink water because you are thirsty. 

"I'm sorry I put you through this" Whatever it is you are talking about, whoever you are saying it to probably is a good friend and that's what friends are for. If you didn't tell them, who would you tell? 

"I'm sorry that my parents spoiled me" You aren't spoiled, you had two parents that loved you. Getting what you need versus getting what you want are different things and having parents who love you are not anything to apologize for. 

"I'm sorry, I can't have children" This one really gets me. Who is putting pressure on said man or woman that they have to apologize for a biological issue? Obviously, if they wanted children they would do everything in their power to do it but to apologize for something you have no control over is absurd. Imagine the guilt this person carries with them daily because they feel like they are letting their partner down. Makes me so sad! 

"I'm sorry I remind you of _____________" Again, WHAT? Sounds like someone has a problem projecting. Again, with the whole expectations and predisposition thing, it's not fair to compare people just like it's not fair to judge people based on previous experiences. (Daddy would be rolling over in his grave now because I used "fair" in a comparison but it's true. He would tell me "Fair is a word to describe the weather, not situations." Thanks dad, heard ya.) 

I just wish this generation would buck up and not be so insecure about who they are and what they are. It's not even young people because old people bark about half the stuff I mentioned as well. I don't know what it boils down to but things you were raised with, bred with or given in genetics don't need apologies. Missing appointments require apologies. Hurting someones feelings deserves an apology, and not am "I am sorry that what I said hurt your feelings." a true "I am sorry I hurt your feelings." There is a difference if you read closely. 

I will get off my soap box now. But I will end with...

 I am sorry for not being sorry, I am what I am, I am not what I'm not, like it or love it this is what I have to work with and I am pretty sure it could always be worse!